Play Me a Song
“What truly matters is what you like, not what you are like.”
Creating a playlist for anyone but yourself is an act of bravery. Not the rush into a burning building kind of courage, but the sort that invites vulnerability. Play me a song and show me who you are. I may learn something about your parents, childhood, peers, first love, heartbreak, triumphs, aspirations, or worldview.
As Zoë Kravitz’s character, Rob, says in Hulu’s “High Fidelity” reboot, “making a playlist is a delicate art.” It’s a deeply personal essay. One that reveals who we are through music. Why do you think people care so much about Barack Obama’s yearly playlist? It makes us feel close to a man many admire, but will never have the opportunity to truly know.
Recently, I saw a mutiny unfold at a cookout. It started with a seemingly innocent observation. The host had a favorite musician who, much like an unwelcome guest, wouldn't go away. He popped up everywhere on the playlist. He hovered over the grill, drifted into conversations, and made things awkward. “Is this the same guy?” someone asked. Phones came out and Shazam apps opened. “It is the same guy!” The first shots of a music rebellion were fired.
Don’t let this happen to your playlist. (Hindenburg disaster, May 6, 1937)
So, how do you prevent your playlist from becoming the Hindenburg?
Know your audience. Not all good songs are good for all occasions.
Where are you taking your listener? You have a universe of songs to pick from and infinite opportunities to explore different eras, continents, and styles. Are we going to Atlanta, Abuja, Nashville, or Neptune?
Your auricular exposition should have the same elements as a good story: introduction > rising action > climax > resolution.
Don’t come out the gate spraying the crowd with hits. Tease and educate. Play something new, old, familiar, and obscure
Have a plan B. What if the chill brunch turns into the turn-up?
Cracking the playlist code may unlock an unforgettable evening and maybe, love’s algorithm.
The recently launched Vinylly dating app matches singles based on their Spotify playlists and listening habits. The app is for music lovers seeking ‘harmony’ in their next relationship. “Vinylly learns to understand you by learning about the music you love…” states their app store description.
So, what would you learn about me if I played you a song*? Years ago, I suffered from frequent night terrors. After a string of these, I realized that putting on a Sade record was the only way for me to get a good night’s rest. That calming affect probably has a lot to do with childhood memories. My mom loved Sade. A playlist for someone I care about would certainly have a song by the timeless Helen Folasade Adu. It’s my way of passing on that comfort. Saying I love you, without saying I love you.
*Yes, I realize I didn’t name a song. Come’on it’s Sade!